I mostly used the word thwart to get you to click this blog. 🙂 It’s a loose synonym for “derail.” What I want to express is how to navigate derailment with three simple tools. I am writing this as governments force its citizens to shelter in place during the coronavirus outbreak. Yet once this passes, these ideas for navigation will still be valid and necessary. And worthy. 

Creative

The time to explore creativity is here. Many of us struggle with the idea of being creative. Creativity, however, is uncomplicated. Here are a few things to help you understand your creativity. 

  1. You are already creative. Where in your world have you created unique practices for your daily rituals? To me, creativity is taking the overly complicated and making it simple. What every-day objects or routines have you made simple so that everything else is easier? That, my friend, is a spot of creativity. Once you start noticing your creative instinct, you will begin to believe, feel, and act creatively. It also becomes easier to translate it for and to others. (As in give away the gift of creativity.)
  2. Watch, read, and listen to creative people. Two things happen here. First, you begin to emulate creativity because you have light-bulb-moments. You see an idea, think wow, and you copy it into your world. As you imitate more and more creative people, you will naturally begin to notice your creativity. The second thing that happens is an affirmation. Along the way of consuming creative content, you will inevitably see one of your ideas played out in someone else. Boom: I already do/have done that.<– I am creative.
  3. Start suggesting ideas to people, even little ones, as they fit naturally into situations. What this isn’t, however, is to be a whirring feeder of “HOW I WOULD DO IT.” That would be annoying. But it is time to help someone when they raise their hand. People need you. 🙂

Curious

“Come from curiosity” is one of the most used coaching phrases. And for a good reason. It is a necessity. In the grand scheme of things coming from curiosity allows me to give dignity to anyone I encounter. Coming from curiosity keeps me from judgment, and the other party gains the ability to be heard. We all want our voice.

  1. Ask great questions to gain understanding. *a small tidbit of advice: don’t start with a why questions because it creates a defensive response
  2. Be understanding—stay curious. We filter information through our life experiences. Keep away from right or wrong and agree with different. 
  3. Affirm with empathetic statements. Never respond, “I know how you feel…” always reply, “I gather you feel _____ because of ______.”
  4. Find the forward path. What can we do together? 

Can’t

“Can’t” is a tunnel vision reaction. When life derails us, we quickly default to what I call tunnel vision. We don’t see any of the options. Life adversely hits us, we go into our filters, we spit out “can’t” as the option, and we move singularly in that direction. Here is the challenge: there are always options. We have to open our eyes to see them. I dealt with this a lot as an educational advisor. I had students who would fall into situations, walk into my office, and want to quit. I had to help them open their vision to find other options. With the right perspective, “can’t” can be stricken from our vocabulary. 

  1. When “can’t” creeps in, start listing other options—even obscure ones. Options will help open the tunnel vision. You will see what is possible. Giving yourself options immediately removes the defeat of “can’t” because you have choice.
  2. When you have options, you remain in control. The worst part about “can’t” is that it will steal our control. Keep control. 

This will help you. Put it into practice.